Friday, July 24, 2009
Hair...and how race comes into play.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
One Man's Perspective.....by Mr.Raymar
For most guys and girls the question that seems to always present itself would be: "What are we?" or “How would you introduce me to your friends?” Well, I have broken it down into 3 answers:
1. Dating: Alright now when youre just dating, you have options; you can go out with whoever you want (when you want to) and not have to answer the phone. This is the purest form of playing the field...you enjoy spending time with the other person but that's all it will ever be (a night out every once in awhile). This is what most people are scared to do because guy will be perceived as a player and a girl, just “out there”. Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong taking your time, meeting new people and with figuring out exactly what you want.
2. Talking: To me this means you two aren't dating anymore an are moving toward something exclusive, you kind of have to be careful! Of course you will want to do all the cute stuff (i.e, late night calls and all of that stuff)...NOTE: but you gotta chill with the "I miss you" and "Im thinking about you" text. If youre saying it just cuz you know that's what they want to hear or youre trying to creep over late night (fine)...but after awhile people start to latch on to those calls and text and when you take them away cuz you start "dating" another girl or guy the other person will feel lost. The most important thing is dont take the spot of a boyfriend if youre not ready to.
3. Exclusive: If youre committed to someone (it is what it is). If you go for a night out you should not be "scouting for the extras on the side" cuz if you are you playing yaself, which leads to lies and the other games we play when we want the best of both worlds. And yes, that person is allowed to ask you certain questions like "where you going?” "What are you doing tonight?" and you kind of gotta answer...so if you not ready to answer those questions..you shouldn't be exclusive.
Basically, we lie to ourselves to protect our feelings. If youre feeling the other person that's fine you don't have to prove it by being exclusive, or string them along just so you have something to come home to, the fall back girl/guy who you know will answer ..Just chill..before you make a decision. The most important thing is don’t act like a girlfriend or boyfriend just because you don’t want to look bad.. You can say NO; at least then they will know where you stand. If you don’t want it don’t take it cuz you can’t just put it back..Just think about it.
*If you having sex with more than one person, although its your business, if your decent you will let the other people know..just be safe..people flip when they think they the only one and you have lead them to believe just that the whole time.
Friday, July 3, 2009
Boyfrient #2??? Yeah right.
The #2 gets all of the perks that the first boyfriend should get, he doesn’t have to do much.. by the time you call him, all he needs to know is what time you want him to meet up..and ladies FYI that makes YOU the JUMPOFF!!!!
Your actual boyfriend is gonna end up figuring out something is wrong eventually, you might slip up and do something that’s NEW and he’ll be like WHOA, where did she learn that?
With all that energy that you have used hiding and keeping secrets from everyone, you could have probably made your relationship work with you actual boyfriend which happens to be kind of ironic.
Boyfriend #2 will begin to talk mess about your actual dude, and at first you will laugh it off but then you will get defensive..but the better question is..Why should he care what you think, you are the JUMPOFF!
Oh and another FYI: you don’t have control over the situation! you’ll probably get disrespected by your #2 because thats what typically happens to JUMPOFFS!
If you keep up the whole boyfriend #2 thing and keep letting a few dudes get the goods eventually you’ll be flying to New York and will be on Maury, and be “100% sure” he is the father, and if you are an INDEPENDENT WOMAN, or whatever it is that yall females claim to be..To us dudes that’s not a good look.
Now of course it goes both ways but as guys we know that if youre willing to have someone on the side your always gonna be in that position. As a female, you gotta figure out why youre with someone.. if you want to go out and date around that is fine..more power to you, but usually when the Boyfriend #1 and Boyfriend #2 meet or something of that caliber it’s all bad.. Remember the BEAUTYSHOP BRAWL THAT WAS ON CNN FROM OAKLAND, that goes both ways..but thats just my take on it. As long as your honest about who you are and what youre doing you’ll figure it out.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Easy Make Up Tips!!!!
1. Pick the right shade please ladies!!! What most of us do: Swipe a possible new color on the back of our hand to see if it flatters. A better idea, Test the lipstick on your fingertip — that way, you can hold the color next to your face to see how it looks. (No mirror? Your finger is still a better gauge, since it's similar in color and texture to your lips.)
1. Fight those droopy (not so sexy eyes)!!!Lightly shade the area just above the arch of your brow with a nude or white liner and blend! This will light up your face and create the illusion of higher brows and lids, which is great for droopy or tired eyes.
1. Conceal flaws....A full face of foundation, too much concealer,can look and feel unnatural. Use cover-up only where you need it (and, where you don't, letting your own skin shine through). Blend.