1 Man’s Perspective:
-Raymar
This is for all of the females out there. If you are offended you are being called a female don’t, I don’t know your name, but I digress. So you want a guy to commit or at least take you more serious and try to be more exclusive..this is what you don’t do!
Don’t play the, I want to see how far I can push him role. Example: He asks what did you do today? You respond with talking about all of the guys that try to talk to you. It’s never a good look, we already know you hot, that’s why we want to talk to you duh..you making us know that is just irritating and kind of rude. If you want attention ask for it, say you wanna go on a date. It works better that way.
Don’t lie about dumb stuff, save the good lies for something else. What I mean is, if you went out with another dude don’t say you were out with friends, or you were just chilling…to us the word “friends” is another way of saying you were with another dude, because when you hang out with all of you other girl”friends” you use their name, we not dumb..be consistent if your gonna talk to other dudes, just be honest.
Making us jealous…it can have two affects none of which are good. One it can make us actually jealous, possessive, paranoid. At first you might think we are being what you want until, we asking to many questions you can’t have it both ways. The other way it works out is, sometimes we will just be like..”Fuck it, I’m out you not that hot.”
Don’t go M.I.A., after you have a deep conversation on the phone, or in person, as in, don’t say “Where do you see us?” or “ How do you feel about me?” then we tell you how we feel and all of a sudden you think it’s a good time to take some “ME TIME”, if you want to take that whole “ME TIME” thing, just say hey I need a little time to think..it makes it a lot easier once you decide to come back. By the time you come back from that, whole thought process we’re mad, and all the trust or openness we were beginning to let you in on, goes away. And you gotta do it all over again.
Keep the Drama to a minimum, tell your girlfriends about that, unless it has something to do with our relationship, most of the time it comes off as you being messy, and you can’t keep your mouth shut. That makes us really not want to be involved, if there is ALWAYS something wrong, the problem is you..not your friends, or everyone else.
Confidence is a must, if you feel as if your not the best thing out there, then why would we want to be with you..although there is a thin line of being confident and being conceited sometimes you gotta walk it.
Touching our stuff, try not to touch our stuff, as in phones, computers. Don’t go through our stuff, we have a tough enough time hiding our secret lives anyway. No but seriously, it show’s you hella insecure, if we don’t give you a reason, just don’t look for one.
Making us pay for that other guy that played you. We don’t always do the right thing, but if you always penalize us for something that reminds you of your ex-dude, i.e. he used to do this or that…it get’s old fast. We can only take so much. If you want to give it a chance keep him out of it. We know it takes time to get over stuff but try harder or just let it go, and if you not ready..it’s okay.
Giving it up to soon. Everything happens in its own time, if you think we will like you more cuz you give it up, we will for a few months but then after that runs out and we get tired of it, and look somewhere else, don’t use sex as a weapon and take it back after you gave it but it’s okay for us to chase a little. Trust me, it’s all good, we can play PS3 or XBOX while we wait, and don’t assume cuz you not giving it up we trying to get it from someone else.
Don’t accuse without proof. If you can’t prove it, just leave it alone, it’ll come out sooner or later.
